Secret Saturday: Party Planning Pressure
My best friend is getting married at the beginning of May and has asked me to be her Maid of Honor. Well, Matron of Honor, but that makes me sound old and this is my blog, so I can do and say whatever I want, so I’m saying Maid.
Her mom is planning the shower and I’m in charge of games. I’m still working on it, but I’m not too worried about it. What I am worried about is the bachelorette party. Because the same people will be involved in both and many of them have weird work schedules, the Bride asked to do the party the same day. I feel this odd pressure to make the party spectacular. I’ve planned parties before, but for some reason this feels different. Maybe it’s because it’s associated with such a huge event in her life. Or maybe it’s because she did a fantastic job planning mine. I don’t know, but I’m really really nervous.
It doesn’t help that I don’t live on that side of the state and moved away from it before I was of legal drinking age, so I’m not familiar with the bar scene whatsoever. I don’t really know where to plan on going, and I don’t actually know most of the ladies she wants to invite so I have no idea if I need to be planning on accommodations for the night as well. I finally got their contact info, so I sent out an email saying “this is what I’m planning on, this is where I could use some information, can anybody point me in the right direction?” and held out hope I would get some useful info from that. So far all I’ve gotten is one person saying they can’t come, and two people saying they have no interest in the activity I had in mind and only want to partake in the bar hopping, but they don’t want to share transportation either. I haven’t heard anything from the other ladies. Sooo, not only have I not gotten help or information, I’m actually getting put in a tough spot trying to plan with what I do know.
She’s asked for it to be a surprise, and the only thing she had to say when I asked for any requests was that she wanted a “night of debauchery”, so on the one hand this should be easy. I’ve been given full control, so I don’t have to worry too much about conforming to a specific plan. But I’m afraid she has a plan in her head for what she would really like to happen, and I don’t want to disappoint her. I’ve come up with a rough idea that I think will be fun and that she’ll like, but this irrational fear that I’ll have found the one thing that she doesn’t want to do is nagging at the back of my mind.
Of course, it won’t matter if more of the ladies come back and say they don’t want to do it. I’m starting to wondering if maybe it’ll be too much to try to do something in-between the shower and going out for the night. Maybe I’ll scrap it for now and keep the night simple, and give her a sort of IOU for a fun girls’ night where her and I and a few other (more fun) friends go out and do it later.
Why is this so hard?!
Posted on March 9, 2013, in Life, Misc. Topics (Life), Misc. Topics (Wedding), Wedding Planning Isn't For Sissies and tagged Bachelorette Party, Communication, Party planning. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.