You’ve spent all this time choosing your own accessories, but your girls are going to need things like shoes too! Things to consider here are shoes, jewelry, clutches, and hair accessories, the same things you had to consider for yourself. You may have a very specific idea of what you want for them, or you may have no idea at all, but it’s time to start thinking!
If you don’t really have a clear idea, it is perfectly acceptable (and relatively common, both in cases where they’re all in the same dress and when they’re in different dresses) to just give your girls some guidelines and let them choose their own accessories. Guidelines can be anything from color families, sizes, blinglevels, almost anything. This lets your girls still fit whatever general image you might have while still getting to show off their individual personalities.
You might have a very clear idea of what you want, but here you need to be careful. If you are requiring specific things, you are responsible for paying for them (the exception being the dress). You are choosing things that will likely not get much wear beyond your wedding, and it’s unfair to expect your girls to shell out for something they will never use again that’s in a category where they SHOULD be able to use it again. On a related note, anything you require does NOT count as a gift. Saying that the shoes you bought for them for your wedding is a gift is like your husband buying you a dustpan for your birthday. Okay it’s not that bad, but it’s close.
If you’re going to choose shoes for your girls, be careful. I think we’ve all worn uncomfortable shoes at some point in our lives, and it’s difficult to find shoes that make everyone’s feet happy. I’ve heard awful stories of girls who were told they had to wear specific shoes, and they just didn’t fit right, and they ended up with blisters by the end of the night (some even by the end of the ceremony!).
These same rules apply for hair and makeup. If you are requiring something specific (either a specific style or even just requiring they have it done professionally), you are responsible for the cost. If you make it an option, you do not have to pay for whatever choice they make.
I told my girls that in a perfect world I wanted them to have dark silver/pewter colored shoes, and that beyond that it was their call. I even felt bad being that specific and said that if they found lighter silver ones they liked, to just do those instead. My bridesmaids apparently wanted me to be more specific and pestered me until I gave them some more details of what I’d ideally like, but made sure they knew that, really, the extra details didn’t matter as long as it was the right color family. My sister and Laura each ended up with PERFECT shoes (they’re not just pewter, they’re pumps like I wanted to boot!), and Tim’s sister hasn’t gotten hers yet (I’m guessing hers will be flats, because she’s tall and doesn’t like to wear heels, which I’m totally cool with; even wearing my heels she’ll still probably be taller than me!). Jewelry is also up to them, though I am getting them each a custom-made necklace from a local lady in their favorite colors which they can wear for the wedding if they want.
How are you going about accessories for your girls? Are you giving them guidelines, or doing something specific?